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Tomorrow's Life Coach (TLC) is a monthly online journal from the Institute for Life Coach Training (ILCT) that nourishes the intellect, intuition and inspiration of the personal and business coaching community. Pat's Ponderings: Live Training Since 1999, ILCT has offered its foundational course via teleconference, and to date, over 1700 students have taken our classes, connecting with fellow students all around the globe. We continue to have, however, prospective students who prefer the live, weekend training, despite the added cost of travel. To meet those requests we have decided to offer LIVE TRAINING as an option beginning November of 2006. The first weekend training will be the first 20 hours of our Foundational course (Part I) and will be taught by Senior Faculty, Lynn Meinke and Lisa Kramer, in Philadelphia, November 17-19, (read more about it). The remaining 20 hours of the Foundational course (Part II) will be offered in the Spring of 2007. I have had the pleasure of training top-notch faculty who are masterful teachers and coaches. Most have also offered live workshops. This promises to be a great event and would be perfect for those new to coaching or who want to learn the specific approach and theories of ILCT. Our philosophy of life coaching is that of a whole person, a non-directive, client-centered approach and focuses on client development. As such, ILCT is considered one of the world leaders in high quality coach training. Please feel free to share this information with colleagues and others who might be interested in our training. Pat Patrick Williams Ed.D., MCC Live
Training - 20 Hour Foundational Coach Training - Philadelphia,
PA This live training is part of the first course in our comprehensive ICF Accredited Coach Training Program. It is the first 20 hours of The Foundational Coach Training (40 hours), which was designed specifically for therapists, counselors, human services professionals and others with backgrounds in the people business. This live training will assist those individuals who wish to move from their current profession into coaching and/or those who wish to add coaching to their current practice. This training will meet over two and one-half days and will provide 20 hours of coach training credit towards an International Coach Federation credential. Part II of our Foundational class (the remaining 20 hours) will be offered in the Spring of 2007 in Philadelphia.
Free Coach Referral Service - Coming Soon! This list is being offered as a free service to assist individuals in identifying and selecting coaches best suited for their particular situation. The Coach Referral service will be available starting on October 15th. Please check our web site at that time for a listing of available coaches. Pat's
Coaching Forum This free call is open to all individuals and we invite you to share this invitation with others. The call will last 60 minutes. Date: October 24th ILCT Alumni – Spotlight on Cindy Barrilleaux Cindy graduated from the University of Massachusetts with a minor in English and in 1983 she went to work for the just-launched magazine, Family Therapy Networker (now the Psychotherapy Networker). Four years later, she became managing editor. She studied at the Graduate School of Publications at George Washington University. During her tenure as managing editor, the magazine twice won the prestigious National Magazine Award, for Best Feature Writing and for General Excellence. When she moved to Albuquerque, New Mexico, she continued as an editor for the Family Therapy Networker and began a business as a freelance editor for authors and publishers. In 2001, she studied coaching at the Institute for Life Coach Training. On completion, she opened her practice as a writing coach, drawing on her experience over the previous two decades of helping non-professional writers carry their projects to completion. Since then, she has coached blocked writers and veteran writers, those aiming for publication and those aiming for self-discovery. She loves everything related to writing--from words and ideas to books and writers. Helping writers achieve their writing goals is her purpose. Finding My Wings Last weekend I drove from Albuquerque, where I live, to go bird watching with friends in the spruce and aspen forests outside Red River, near the Colorado border. Kathy, a wildlife biologist, reminded me again not to identify a bird with just one indicator. As in, "It's got a long tail. It must be a …" You have to look at several details--a thick bill, a wash of pink on the sides, an eye stripe--to figure out what kind of bird it is. Look for more than one clue. It's not just in birding that I forget to look at the whole picture. A number of years ago, for example, after I trained as a life coach, I thought I knew what kind of coaching bird I was. But I was ignoring lots of clues. I had started a practice as a life coach as soon as the training ended. And gradually I realized I wasn't very good at it. And I didn't much enjoy it. I was surprised and troubled. What was going on? Like a chickadee trying to be a blue jay, I was ignoring some of my more obvious field marks. Since a child, I'd been fascinated by words. As an adult, I'd worked for almost 20 years as a magazine and book editor. But now I'd taking life-coach training, and so that was what I'd be. No matter what my leanings were. I ignored other indicators as well. As soon as I finished training, I started getting referrals of writing clients. Pat Williams referred my first client to me--a woman who wanted coaching to finish a book. I pretended not to notice how much I enjoyed working with her on writing and that I was skillful at it. I didn't want to like it so much, and to not like life coaching. One clue to a bird's identity is what it feeds on. You know--robins go for worms, hummingbirds for nectar, phoebes for gnats. But did I pay attention to what I fed on? Of course not. I overlooked the fact that at bookstores, I don't reach for psychology or self-improvement books, like my friend the life coach does. I head straight for the writing books; I devour them, and then go back for more. Trying to be what you aren't is uncomfortable for you and everyone around you. In my first year as a life coach, I was uncomfortable for many clients: Helen, a middle-aged woman who wanted to rebuild her Mary Kay practice; and Mike, a life insurance salesman who needed a plan to build his client base; and Dee, a hospice nurse who had difficulty setting boundaries. And I wasn't all that happy with myself. Yet in the meantime, I was getting referrals of writers who were stuck, and they referred other writers. Soon I had writing clients all over the country. When I coached them, I felt like a raven playing on the wind currents. Finally, all the field marks came together, and stopped fighting my nature. I changed my business name to Write Your Best, moved my two books on life coaching to a back room, and filled my office my stacks of dog-eared writing books. I put out the word to the people who had known before I did: I'm open for business as a writing coach. Forgive my saying the obvious, but it's still awesome to me: Now that I own who I am, what I love, and what feeds me, life is incredibly easy. Everything flows. And once I was at peace with myself, the barriers between me and my clients dissolved. I listen. Really listen, no split attention. Because I'm relaxed, my own experience, training, wisdom, and creativity are available all the time. This is why noticing the clues to who you really are is so helpful to blocked writers. Yesterday I had an appointment with Margaret, a veteran therapist struggling to write a book about her work with children. No matter what strategies we come up with, she can't sit down to write for long. In this session, we were going to talk through the outline for her book. She'd mentioned early in our coaching that she had a rare disease that at any time could get accelerate and become terminal. We talked about it occasionally, but it was clear she managed it effectively. She started the session saying nonchalantly that a blood test showed that her disease might be developing. She would know in a few days. "I'm alive now," she said, "and that's where I keep my focus. No point in thinking about the negativity." The fact is, avoiding our reality makes writing nearly impossible. So I asked, "Supposing you are dying?" Margaret was quiet for a long time, and then began to speak, her hyper-cheerfulness gone. She spoke with sadness about saying goodbye to her husband and children, and giving up her plans for the future. She talked about what one thing she might be able to accomplish before she died, and whether she'd have the strength to write her book. At the end of the session, she said she was surprised at how peaceful she felt. When I asked her that question, I had no idea if writing her book would remain a priority for her and I didn't care. I knew, though, that writing is like life--it requires self-awareness and self-honesty. Without opening to her reality, she'd never be able to write, even if she wanted to. Margaret, like me, had wanted to be a certain type of bird, and had used her energy to not notice all of who she is. Maybe we all could benefit from a little close-to-home bird watching. It's how I found my wings.
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In this fictional tale an executive learns the great secret of leadership effectiveness: to get out of the self-deceptive box of narcissism and start connecting in empathic and respectful ways with others. We're in the box when we treat others as objects or focus on what's wrong with them instead of what we can do to help. Without discounting the value of strong managerial direction, the story reasserts something we know but don't practice--that people are more likely to be enthusiastic and effective when they know we care about them."
by The Arbinger Institute "What if conflicts at home, conflicts at work, and conflicts in the world stem from the same root cause? And what if individually and collectively we systematically misunderstand that cause, and unwittingly perpetuate the very problems we think we are trying to solve? Through an intriguing story of parents struggling with their troubled children and with their own personal problems, The Anatomy of Peace shows how to get past the preconceived ideas and self-justifying reactions that keep us from seeing the world clearly and dealing with it effectively. Yusuf al-Falah, an Arab, and Avi Rozen, a Jew, each lost his father at the hands of the other's ethnic cousins. As the story unfolds, we discover how they came together, how they help warring parents and children to come together, and how we too can find our way out of the struggles that weigh us down. The choice between peace and war lies within us."
Life coaching is more than a collection of techniques and skills. It is more than something you do. Life coaching reflects who you are-it is your authentic being in action. Readers of Pat Williams's and Deborah Davis's book, Therapist as Life Coach, know Pat to be a gifted life coach and passionate teacher. Here Pat and psychologist/colleague and writer of more than 1600 newspaper columns, Lloyd J. Thomas, build on this earlier book and share a unique insight into the coaching process, which shows you precisely how to enhance your professional practices through practical and effective life coaching. It also empowers you to change your own lives through use of the practical information and philosophy presented here. Announcements A Supervision Practicum - October 4th - December 6th A Supervision Practicum for coaches who want to more fully develop the art of coaching by focusing on their own coaching process with clients. In this Practicum, participants will have the opportunity to bring their own case materials for examination and exploration. Using their cases as stimuli, participants will role-play and coach each other. There will also be time for feedback, reflection and discussion. Outcomes from this approach allow participants to refine their coaching approaches and skills to fit their own unique coaching style while more fully embracing the artful, non-directive, client-centered, creativity of coaching. . Tomorrow's Life Coach™ Patrick Williams, Ed.D., Publisher If you wish to use any of our content in a newsletter, magazine or other media (whether public or internal), please request permission. |
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