Tomorrow's
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Tomorrow's Life Coach (TLC) is a monthly online journal from the Institute for Life Coach Training (ILCT) that nourishes the intellect, intuition and inspiration of the personal and business coaching community. Pat's Ponderings One of my early mentors in my exploration of psychology, consciousness, and meaning was Carl Jung. Jung wrote much about the ages and stages of life and was one of the first Western thought leaders that spoke about the "later years" (over 50) as the time for the quest; the journey into a deeper spiritual connection to one’s true life purpose, "A human being would certainly not grow to be seventy or eighty years old if this longevity had no meaning for the species. The afternoon of human life must also have a significance of its own…" Jung, (Stages of Life Collected Works, Vol. 8, Paragraph 787). When the early years (20s and 30s) have been navigated well, then the middle years (40s and 50s) are a time of restlessness and transition. This is often where people experience "burn out," existential angst, or creative opportunities for change and transformation. After this time of life one begins what today is being called the "third age" of life - age 60 and beyond. (The way people are living we may have to have a last quarter for the 90 and 100-year-olds.) However, this later stage of life is not just by age in years, but age in spiritual growth — growth and development of the being that you are. This later life period is a period of reintegration. If development has gone well, the psyche can now manifest that which was always in potential. Our sense of identity is now expanded. We know more about our authentic selves and have come to some peace with our mistakes and limitations. We can become more fully who we were created to be, and we can make choices from a place of authenticity and integrity. In our culture, this long coming-to-authenticity period can be filled with health, energy and personal freedom and can offer unexpected joy, peace, acceptance and love. A new passion of mine, flamed by my friend and mentor Richard Leider (Claiming Your Place At the Fire) is to use coaching to create a new view of eldering and vital aging (see the Four Flames of Vital Aging). It is an opportunity for coaches to work both for themselves and their clients by being mentors to those younger or at an earlier stage in life. Coaching for purposeful living is a big aspect of this and both Richard and I view getting the word retirement out of our vocabulary. I have shifted my language to calling it protirement — a word I learned from Frederic Hudson (author of The Adult Years). To that end I have asked a few wise elders of coaching to share their perspectives with us, which you can read below.Pat Patrick Williams Ed.D., MCC Monthly FREE Introduction to Coaching Calls: Have you lost the passion you had when you entered the profession of being a therapist? Are you on the fast track to burn-out or are you already there? Do you want to add another income stream to your existing practice? Do you want to set your own fees and get paid what you are worth? Do you want to revitalize your work, reclaim your passion, and find joy in doing what you love? Join us for a free one-hour class that will introduce you to the wonderful career of Life Coaching. We want to share our excitement with you and give you information that you can use to help you decide if Life Coaching is for YOU. Topics to be discussed:
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to register Pat's Coaching Forums On September 11th, Pat William's guest will be Craig Neal, the co-founder of Heartland Inc., who will be offering a new course at ILCT this Fall: The Art of Convening for Coaches I (AoC). The AoC is a 6-month course specially designed for training coaches in the art of convening groups of learners (small and large). It will focus on how the practices and principles of convening can revolutionize your coaching practice and transform how you lead meetings and gatherings. Date: September 11th This is a FREE call. Click here to register. On September 18th, Pat William's guest will be Doug Silsbee, PCC, coach, consultant, and catalyst for change. Doug will be discussing his Art of Mindful Coaching Retreat in Asheville, NC October 8-10; a residential retreat for in-depth exploration of mindful coaching. Based on the 2004 book, The Mindful Coach, this retreat is designed for coaches who are committed to developing presence and authenticity in their coaching and want to experience an integration of mindfulness practices with a practical methodology for holding learning conversations that really work. Participants will receive extensive coaching on a topic of their choice, and will leave with a development plan for moving forward. Date: September 18th This is a FREE call. Click here to register. On September 25th, Pat William's guest will be Carol McClelland, consultant, trainer, and author of Seasons of Change. Carol will be discussing her Seasons of Change: Bringing Hope to Clients in Transition course beginning September 28th. Seasons of Change is a powerful model for coaches who work with clients in the midst of transition. This gentle, natural approach to change provides the coach and the client a map of the transition process so they both know where to focus to help the client move from the depths of Winter into the clarity and action of Spring. Date: September 25th This is a FREE call. Click here to register. Free Coach Referral Service This list is being offered as a free service to assist individuals in identifying and selecting coaches best suited for their particular situation. Click here for more information. Why I Went Into Coaching (at 76) by Marty Wardman As time keeps moving on and I wonder why, On Becoming a "Wise Elder" by Patricia Adson On my 70th birthday I took a look at my life and decided that some things needed to change. I realized that I need to have something to look forward to (other than retirement), something to learn, and a need to keep myself interested in other than my self and my immediate family. I wanted to continue working, but on my own terms. I wanted to change what I was doing (psychotherapy) but not go too far afield. Fortunately, I came across Pat Williams' ad for TherapistU. For the past eight years I have been actively engaged in a private practice of coaching; working primarily with people who are engaged in the professions: medicine, law, teaching, psychotherapy, coaching, and the clergy. In addition I have written a book on coaching (Depth Coaching: Discovering Archetypes for Empowerment, Growth, and Balance), write a column about coaching for Carol Pearson’s newsletter, conducted workshops, served as an external mentor coach for The Hudson Institute of Santa Barbara, and have taught an advanced coaching course based on my book, Depth Coaching. Coaching has allowed me to combine many of my interests and opened doors that I didn’t even know were there. I am constantly stimulated, challenged, and involved. The greatest gift that coaching has given to me is that of community. Coaching has given me a new circle of stimulating, warm, close friends at a time of life when others my age find their circle of friends steadily shrinking and their conversations centered on the past or their deteriorating health. I believe that what the elders have to do is not marginalize themselves by clinging to outmoded ideas about age and usefulness. As coaches we can help ourselves and our clients change their attitude and ideas about aging. Perhaps as "wise elders" we can demonstrate that the problem is not one of "getting old" or of "staying young," but of learning how to be old. By staying involved, willing to change, caring about others, and open to possibilities we can show that there is a purpose to this stage of life and no need to be marginalized or to marginalize ourselves. Is "Wise Elder" a Euphemism for "Older Smart Ass?" by Dr. John Bellanti CLC, PCC I chose to add coaching to my life at this time because it was a natural step. I had been doing enrichment therapy for years, and found that 85% of the clients who came to me didn't need therapy, but rather something akin to coaching. Then I read about the characteristics of successful coaches, and saw they all applied to me - I decided it was worth pursuing. Today I am seeing between 8 and 10 clients a week, offering workshops, preparing to present a Teleclass, meeting by-weekly with Coaches United, writing two different books, giving talks on coaching, and am a faculty member of ILCT. My thoughts on the benefits of being a "wise elder:"
Sitting in the Wisdom Seat by Gary R. Collins For most of my professional life I have been involved with students. I have spent hundreds of hours hanging out with people in their twenties and thirties (and now some who are in their forties). I have consumed huge quantities of coffee and had long talks about life and careers and finding direction. Doing this seems to be a part of my DNA. It inspires me. One man who is now vice president of a large corporation used to say to me "Gary I do not need a dad. I have a good dad. I do not need a counselor, I can buy a counselor’s services. I need somebody to journey with – somebody who has been on the road longer, somebody who is willing to walk with younger guys like me, point out the roadblocks and stand with me when I am at the choice points of life." When I turned 60 I concluded that all of this was over. At 60 I wondered why these younger guys would still want to hang out with somebody my age. A few months later I was speaking to an audience of several thousand counselors, and after sharing the above story, a couple of people suggested that I write a textbook on coaching. I protested. I knew nothing about coaching. But what probably is typical of me I jumped in, learned everything I could, took an ILCT foundational course, and got some coaching. The book came out and has sold about 10,000 copies or more (Christian Counseling, 3rd Edition). Before long I started getting invitations to teach coaching and have done so in perhaps 12 or 13 countries. This month I received an invitation from a publisher to produce a series of five coaching books. In the meantime I am well on my way to ICF certification at the PCC level. I regularly teach coaching in some graduate schools and seminars. I have a small practice working mostly with leaders. My mission statement is: encouraging and equipping emergent leaders. A lot of these are younger leaders and some are international leaders. Right now most of my clients are young leaders who live in China. We connect through our computers. I have concluded that my age (I am not 72) is not a hindrance to what I want to do. In contrast, it is an advantage. When I look through coaching books I rarely see the word wisdom but I think that many people are looking for a coach who has wisdom, who has been on the path longer. A couple of years ago I was invited to address several hundred twenty-something and thirty-somethings. The chairman of the meeting asked if he could introduce me as "a grandfather type." He added "Every one of these kids is looking for a mentor or a coach to walk with them. They would all like to have you as a coach because you have gray hair, you bring a perspective that they don’t have, and you bring respect for them that they don’t always get from older people." I guess my friend was saying that these younger people were looking for wise elders. One of my clients says it this way, almost every time we have a coaching session. "Gary I need to be with you because you sit in the wisdom seat." Whatever one’s age in life, we can do things that we can’t do at any other age. I may be the oldest student in the ILCT program but I am pushing forward, still having lots of breakfasts, coaching, and having fun as an elder. Dr. Patrick Williams' Coaching Symposium In Sorrento, Italy
ILCT Students Discount - learn more! This four-day seminar is designed to provide professionals an understanding of the theory, history and practical methodology of professional coaching as a field. The seminar will clarify the distinction between therapy and coaching. Participants will learn skills that are transferable from the field of therapy and identify skills that need to be "unlearned" in order to be an effective coach. Dr. Williams developed this workshop specifically for mental health professionals who would like to further understand the field of coaching and how they may incorporate coaching into their practice, or evolve their practice into one entirely focused on coaching. Live and video demonstrations, audio sessions, practical experience, and interactive worksheets will be utilized extensively to illustrate these principles and techniques. Live coaching and video demonstrations, audio sessions, practical experience, and interactive worksheets will be utilized extensively to illustrate coaching principles and techniques. Enjoy this interactive seminar, in a beautiful part of Italy, have fun and (if your tax professional agrees) write off the cost of the trip!!!! Date: Sunday, September 30th to Friday, October 5th,
2007 (six days, five nights) New Class: Research for Coaches Carol Kauffman PhD, ABPP, PCC and Patrick Williams, Ed.D., MCC will be offering Research for Coaches October 16th through December 4th. This highly interactive, user-friendly class will help you learn the research ropes and use them to bring your practice to a new level. You will learn how to do basic research; how to read between the lines to tell what's good work and what is blue smoke and mirrors. Research is the key to good marketing – and good practice! Find out what works, and what does not. Never be intimidated by jargon again — "hard" science research can be easy too. As clients become more sophisticated those who can operate in the research arena have the performance edge. Read full description and register. FREE Teleclass Body-Mind Life Coaching™ Specialist Certificate Course: Using the Body to Deepen Awareness and Forward the Action Join Dr. Lauree Moss, PCC to learn more about this exciting new certificate course, which will begin October 16th. Coaches in any niche who are interested in learning more about how to integrate non-verbal dimensions into their coaching will gain invaluable skills and tools. They will develop expertise in accessing the nonverbal dimension that exists in all interactions and communications. Using Body-Mind Life Coaching™ tools, coaches will learn ways to work with the powerful messages of the body. It is said that the body never lies. Through habitual ways of thinking, acting and feeling, there is often a disconnection between the mind and body. Date: Tuesday, September 11th Expand Your Business! Deepen Your
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Additional classes, details and online registration at our course section. Some schedules may change; check listing or contact Edwina Adams, Administration/Registration, at edwina@lifecoachtraining.com. Where In The World Is Pat Williams? September 30th - October 5th October 12th - 14th October 27th - 28th October 31 - November 4th Based on lessons learned on Richard and Pat's recent walking safari in Africa, and interactions with tribal elders, this session offers new ways for senior coaches to renew themselves and revitalize their practices for the second half of life. The Four Flames of Vital Aging will be used during the session. Read more. Pat's New Books / What Pat Recommends
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