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Pat's Ponderings
It
is October and fall is in the air (except for those
of you in the southern hemisphere). I always love this
time as a marker for change. Change is always going
to happen, but I think the marking of a quarterly seasonal
change is a time to focus on both change that is happening
as predicted, and change that is desired for the coming
future. In the northern hemisphere, fall is a time to
harvest what you have planted, and to celebrate the
bounty. In the southern hemisphere fall is the time
to celebrate new growth and to prepare for the beauty
of spring and new development. Coaches and clients can
learn much from this metaphoric look at nature.
I am training this month in Sorrento, Italy and will
be witnessing harvests of grapes and olives. This type
of harvest has been done for centuries. It
will be inspiring to see how villagers in a very small
community celebrate and endorse each other for the roles
they have played in bringing vital energy from the earth
into their bodies. Those of us in other parts of the
world do not always recognize or acknowledge where the
food that we eat comes from. I like to support organic
farmers in our community and go to farmers markets.
God bless them for what they do so we can enjoy the
bounty on our tables.
As you begin to prepare to enjoy the change of seasons
in your life and the lives of your clients, I urge to
to stop and reflect IN NATURE on the beauty and bounty
of wherever you live.
And as a good book to read and use with your clients,
I recommend Seasons
of Change by my friend and ILCT adjunct instructor
Carol Mcclelland.
To the Seasons and the way they season us!
Pat
Patrick Williams Ed.D., MCC
Chief Energizing Officer, ILCT
Director of Coach Training, Fielding International University
Department Chair, Professional Coaching, International University
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Border Line – Understanding the relationship
between therapy and coaching By Patrick Williams, EdD, MCC, Choice
Magazine Vol. 5, Issue 3
As the profession of life coaching evolves, it becomes
more uniquely defined and described. Over the past decade,
many coaches and psychologists have clarified its definition
and role (Ellis, 2005; Williams and Davis, 2000; Stober
and Grant, 2006; Williams and Menendez, 2007), and these
distinctions continue to emerge. Increasingly, life
coaching seems to be revealing itself as an evolutionary
step beyond traditional therapy. Traditional therapy
will not become extinct, but rather it will increasingly
serve only those clients who need clinical services.
On a continuum, the distinctions between the two fields
might be represented as in the chart on the opposite
page As the helping professions continue to evolve,
more clarity will emerge regarding which helping professional
is the best fit for a client’s current concern.
The distinctions between traditional therapy and coaching
can be considered in four broad categories.
Past vs. future: Perspectives on the process.
Therapy frequently focuses on the past and generally
assumes the client has a problem that needs solving;
coaching focuses on the future and assumes the client
is whole and has the innate wisdom and tools to have
a wonderful life.
Fix vs. create: Why clients come to see you.
Clients generally seek a therapist as a resource to
fix or eliminate their problem; clients seek a coach
to assist them in getting more out of their lives
or creating new possibilities in their lives.
Professional vs. collegial: Characteristics
of the helper-client relationship. Therapy clients
generally see the therapist as an expert who holds
the answers and techniques to fix their problems;
coaching clients see the coach as a partner to support
their growth and efforts to create an even better
life than they have now.
Limited vs. open: How you generate new clients.
Therapists are limited in the ways they can generate
clients and how readily they can approach others about
their services; coaches can be free and open about
seeking clients and discussing their services.
Let’s take a deeper look at each of these distinctions...
Gear Shift - When to refer a coaching client to
a mental health professional By Lynn Meinke, PCC, Choice
Magazine Vol. 5, Issue 3
Have you ever wondered if a particular client might
benefit from professional counseling or psychotherapy?
Are you uncomfortable raising your concerns with the
client? What indicators or patterns should you be looking
for to know a referral is appropriate? These questions
are important ones for any coach who wants to maintain
best practices and honor the principles and ethics of
the coaching profession. In June 2002 a controversial
article published in the Harvard Business Review suggested
that many coaches — those who lack rigorous psychological
training — do more harm than good because they
downplay or simply ignore deep-seated psychological
problems they don’t understand. A number of psychotherapists
have similarly argued that some coaches are practicing
psychotherapy without a license. In fact, one state
wanted coaches to register as non-licensed therapists.
Thanks to the proactive leadership of the International
Coach Federation, this state licensing board was educated
about the philosophy, ethics and scope of practice for
coaching and the need to register was dropped.
It is important that the coaching industry thoughtfully
address these concerns. A clear response will solidly
establish coaching as a unique profession anchored in
learning and development. It will also differentiate
coaching from the mental health field which has historically
been anchored in the medical model of pathology...
Your marriage doesn't have to be in trouble to benefit
from an objective, encouraging third party—a life
coach.
"If couples are able to address an issue, goal,
desire, or vision proactively, they can head off any
number of potential crises," asserts Christopher
McCluskey, a master certified Christian coach who works
with couples around the world, objectively encouraging
and helping them see paths to growth and success.
McCluskey, whose background is in psychotherapy, worked
primarily in marriage and family therapy for 12 years
prior to becoming a coach. In 1998, he founded Coaching
for Christian Living (www.christian-living.com). He
is also the director of the Christian
track at the Institute for Life Coach Training,
an accredited school with the only distinctly Christian
life coach training program in the world.
In the last several years life coaching has become
more prominent among couples. Here's what McCluskey
had to say about the rewards a couple can attain through
life coaching.
Why would a couple seek a life
coach?
Because they want to grow their marriage or they want
to pursue a stronger or clearer vision for their family.
One of the most frequent reasons is to enhance their
level of intimacy. They have a good marriage but are
plateauing. They may feel their lives are scattered
and out of control. And they want help getting back
on track, help clarifying and living out God's unique
calling on their lives.
They may need help working through obstacles to get
a spouse home from the work force or a job change, or
they're preparing for empty nesting or graduate school.
Another reason is blended families. A primary conflict
in a blended family is children. So rather than just
hold your breath and hope for the best or wait for the
inevitable conflict, many blended families will work
with a coach to help them proactively develop a better
vision for how to blend their family and to head off
the problems before they take root.
I also work with couples as they move their families
into the pre-teen and teen years. A lot of parents stumble
through those years never nailing down a clear vision,
and they wind up having the default vision of our Western
culture: simply "surviving."
They wander through those years thinking, Where do
the kids need to be now? What new activities are they
involved in? How am I going to deal with this new mouthiness?
What am I going to do about this new group of friends
they're hanging with?
They're constantly reacting to every new "crisis." And
so couples become like a steel ball in a pinball machine,
bouncing off whatever's screaming for their attention.
That's not an effective way to do family or marriage.
They need to identify what they're going to say "yes" to
in their family and what they're going to say "no" to.
That's where coaching can help. A couples coach can
help them catch a fresh vision and then use that vision
to make it their reality...
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Where In The World Is Pat Williams?
October 12th - 14th
Santa Fe, NM New England Educational Institute
Pat will be presenting his highly successful Therapist as Life
Coach: A Natural Transition symposium. This symposium has been
designed to provide participants with an understanding of the theory,
historical perspective, and practical methodology of the profession
of personal and professional coaching and how it has evolved. This
symposium will clarify the distinction between therapy and coaching.
Participants will learn skills that are transferable from the field
of therapy and identify skills that need to be "unlearned." This
symposium has been designed for participants who would like to further
understand the field of coaching and how they may incorporate it
into their practice, or evolve their practice into one entirely
focused on coaching.
October 27th - 28th
Toronto, Ontario, Canada OACCPP
Annual Conference - Into the Future: New Horizons
October 31 - November 4th
Long Beach, CA International Coach Federation Conference
Breakout Session: Becoming a Wise Elder Coach: Lessons From Africa,
Saturday, November 3rd with Patrick Williams, MCC and Richard Leider
Based on lessons learned on Richard and Pat's recent
walking safari in Africa, and interactions with tribal
elders, this session offers new ways for senior coaches
to renew themselves and revitalize their practices for
the second half of life. The Four
Flames of Vital Aging will be used during the session. Read
more.
"Designed as a practical tool to help
readers negotiate the seas of change, The
Seasons of Change describes how important
it is to view change as a naturally occurring
process that is a catalyst, rather than a threat,
to success.
Dr. Carol McClelland, a transition consultant
specializing in guiding people through periods
of transition, describes our lives as following
nature's pattern of the seasons. For instance,
Summer is a time for celebrating our harvest,
a time when we savor our successes and take
an opportunity to relax. Fall is a season to
prepare for the harsh winter months and unsettling
conditions that often take place around this
time. Winter is a time of hibernation and renewal
while Spring, of course, is a time when our
energy increases and we anticipate new beginnings.
By following Dr. McClelland's model, we can
become conscious of our own cycles, learn to
trust our feelings, and benefit from the gifts
that nature offers."
If your answer is yes to any one of
these, you need to read this book!
Those who choose to travel the road of success
must also travel the road of continuing education.
Success is about being prepared. Every time
you read a book that contains the experiences
of successful people, you are advancing on your
own personal road to success whatever that work
means to you.
The authors in this book will help you expand
your horizons and gain a whole new perspective
on how to achieve success!
With his bestselling Therapist as Life Coach,
Pat Williams introduced the therapeutic community
to the career of life coaching. Now, Williams,
founder of the Institute for Life Coach Training
(ILCT), and Menendez, senior trainer at ILCT—both
master certified coaches extraordinaire—reveal
all the basic principles and crucial strategies
that they have taught to thousands of coaches
over the years. Beginning with a brief history
of the foundations of coaching and its future
trajectory, Becoming a Professional Life
Coach takes readers step-by-step through
the coaching process, covering all the crucial
ideas and strategies for being an effective,
successful life coach, including:
Listening to, versus listening for, versus
listening with;
Establishing a client's focus;
Giving honest feedback and observation;
Formulating first coaching conversations;
Asking powerful, eliciting questions;
Understanding human developmental issues;
Reframing a client's perspective;
Enacting change within clients;
Helping clients to identify and fulfill
core values, and much, much more.
REVIEWS:Being
a truly effective ally of another person
requires us to know both what to do and
how to be; Becoming a Professional Life Coach gives us both.
While the task of creating a comprehensive
training text on the broad field of life
coaching is quite daunting, Patrick Williams
and Diane Menendez take it on with what
appears to be real joy and they master it.
The reader is both instructed and inspired
cover to cover. The challenge of doing more
than producing another coaching "cookbook" is
met and exceeded with an excellent integration
of both practical technique and well grounded
theory.
Becoming a Professional Life Coach integrates
what is sometimes missing in much coach
training, such as Prochaska's Stage
of Readiness For Change. The book takes
terms which have become well-worn catch
phrases, such as fulfillment and empowerment,
and infuses them with new life, helping
the coach to truly understand their
meaning, importance and their use. Becoming
a Professional Life Coach will become
the touchstone in the field of training
life coaches. Michael Arloski, Ph.D.,
PCC, author of Wellness
Coaching For Lasting Lifestyle Change.
I highly recommend Becoming
a Professional Life Coach for
both new and experienced coaches, and
for anyone interested in learning the "coach
approach" in their lives, business
and communities. Today coaching skills
are an invaluable resource, both in
the workplace and for personal fulfillment,
yet there are still millions that don't
even know what coaching is or how to
become one. Pat and Diane deliver an
easy to read, comprehensive guide offering
history, theory and practical application
of the most potent skills used by professional
life coaches worldwide. This book addresses
a great need in the marketplace. . .
Since Patrick Williams is the founder
of his own coaching school, I expected
a cookie cutter curriculum from his
own school's teachings. However, I was
pleasantly surprised at how thoroughly
they integrated and referenced the best
disciplines from a variety of coaching
schools, as well as useful and distinguished
models from the field of psychology.
It is no wonder that Patrick Williams
is known as "The Ambassador for
Life Coaching." As a veteran life
coach, I applaud Patrick for inspiring
thousands more to integrate a "coach
approach" in their everyday lives
and/or become a life coach themselves.
The world could use a few more life
coaches, and this is a perfect place
to begin. Mary E. Allen, CPCC, MCC,
Author of The
Power of Inner Choice
New coaching books
are appearing with greater frequency but
they vary significantly in quality. Many
are poorly written re-statements of what
has appeared in other books. Few bring
fresh perspectives.
Very different is Becoming
a Professional Life Coach by Patrick
Williams and Diane Menendez. The authors
draw on their broad coaching backgrounds
and experiences in training others through
the Institute for Life Coach Training. Their
book is practical, informative, clearly
written and sensitive to values even though
the writing is not from a distinctively
Christian perspective. This is a good overview
for anyone new to the coaching field and
a helpful update for experienced coaches. Gary
R. Collins, EVALUATING COACHING BOOKS Newsletter.
Pat Williams has been
a pioneer & innovator in holistic life
coaching. After traveling and sitting around
the fire with Pat in Africa, I was inspired
to re-read the book that I had already wholeheartedly
endorsed. I was astonished in my second
read at the wealth of new insights to be
uncovered, even for a seasoned life coach
like me with 33-years of experience! Becoming
a true professional requires us to profess
our "anthropology"- our point-of-view
on the "life" side of coaching.
This book is ripe with the wisdom to help
us do that. The evolution of our purpose,
values & beliefs must continue through
all seasons of our coaching lives. And this
book is an essential guide for the journey.
I am confident it will help shape the life
coaching agenda for decades. Richard
J. Leider, Founder & Chairman The Inventure
Group, bestselling author of The
Power of Purpose, Repacking
Your Bags,& Claiming
Your Place At the Fire.
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