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Pat's Ponderings
Dear Readers,
This month's issue, about promoting the Coaching profession,
may seem a bit paradoxical. We often teach not to promote
but to use the principle of attraction. But you still have
to promote. We just don't believe that coaches nor the profession
itself should use manipulative, coercive or pressure tactics
for "selling" the possibility of hiring a coach.
So, this issue is about how do we get the word out, how
do people hear about Coaching as a profession and about
coaches specifically.
In a sentence: Quit being a secret and share about what
you do and the profession itself with passion and authentic
excitement.
I just returned from a week in the UK and spoke with many
coaches, business leaders, and coaching professionals about
Coaching in the UK specifically. People in the UK, and Europe
in general, put faith in proper credentials and training
standards. IF you are connected and learning from an Accredited
Coach Training Program (ACTP) such as ILCT, then you are
on the right path. And it also is a big credibility boost
if you also join the ICF and abide by the standards of excellence,
the code of ethics, and become an active part in shaping
the profession.
When you speak about the profession of coaching in a positive,
professional and ethical manner, then the next logical step
of letting people know they can hire you is easier.
Who do you need to let know that you are coaching, and how
can you contact them this week?
Pat
Patrick Williams Ed.D., MCC
Chief Energizing Officer, ILCT
Department Chair, Professional Coaching
International University of Professional Studies www.iups.edu
Editor's
Pen
Dear Coaches,
Do you still meet people who
have never heard of coaching? I do--often. How
are you meeting the challenge of explaining
your craft?
Recently, I've been hearing "Don't
use the word 'coach', but describe what you
do." It takes time, courage and hard work
to prepare a powerful description of your business,
but it is definitely worth it. A marketing coach
can help.
Do you contrast the coaching
profession with therapy and consulting when
talking with prospects? Last week I came across
a great example of this at http://www.marketingu.net/coaching/index.html (near
the bottom of the page) that you will want to
read. Often stories communicate more clearly
than lists of facts or definitions.
Take advantage of the articles
from this issue on "Promoting the Coaching
Profession" to help you plan your next
promotion!
Celebrating the Coaching Profession, Annette
Annette A. Miller, Professional
Life Coach
annette@lifesync.com
Editor, Tomorrow's Life Coach
Graduate, ILCT
Member, ICF, CCN, IAC
Founder, LifeSync Coaching®
Assessments & Customizing Systems to increase the ease
and success of running a coaching business: www.lifesync.com.
North Texas Coaches Promote
Coaching
There is an incredible amount
of energy and talent in North Texas coaches.
Through the Herculean efforts of the Coaching
Week 2004 Team, led by Sharon Coleman and guided
by Teresa Pool (current ICF-NT Chapter Host
and last year's ICF-NT Public Relations Chair),
many impressive events were made available to
the public promoting the coaching profession
this month.
This was a collaborative effort
initiated by ICF-North Texas (Judy Womack, 2003
Chapter Host) who was joined by CoachVille DFW
(Frank Spitzig, President) and Christian Coaches
Network-North Texas Chapter (Annette Miller,
Facilitator). The Coaching Week Team began meeting
last fall and selected various activities. Many
coaches contributed their resources to brainstorming,
facilitating and implementing activities. Coaching
Week events were compiled and listed in one
central location at www.icf-nt.org.
Members were invited to submit a form to highlight
their February services (workshops, coaching
programs and teleclasses) which were then listed
on the ICF-NT website. A flier was created that
highlighted events and directed readers to the
website; this flier was distributed by local
coaches to the public.
A Kick-Off Event on Monday
of Coaching Week included 13 hours of free teleforums
to provide coaching information and inspiration
to the public. Each hour had a different host
and focus; most were led by individual coaches.
The coaching week coordinators provided a script
to each teleforum host which invited listeners
to Coaching Week and to visit the website.
One of the local coaches who
hosts a television program on a local cable
channel brought three other local coaches together
for a show titled "Expanding Your Life
with Coaching for 2004". Radio was another
venue used this year-three coaches participated
in two radio shows to promote the coaching profession.
Another exciting event was
a pro-bono coaching program called "Giving
Back - Coaching our Community Leaders." Five
non-profit organizations and five school district
groups were selected to receive three months
of pro bono coaching. Local coaches organizing
this event searched for interested organizations,
created an application process, identified qualified
coaches to provide the services, and matched
coaches with these groups/individuals. Those
selected will be committed to achieving bigger
goals and advanced personal and professional
development.
The energy and facilitation
provided by the bringing together of these coaches
will continue. Later this year, a Human Resources/Organizational
Development event is anticipated, as well as
a CEO event.
Do you coach couples or are you looking to expand your coaching
practice to include couples? Join Lisa Kramer for a
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The Conscious
Relationship: Coaching with Couples
"For one human being to love another; that is perhaps
the most difficult task of all...the work for which all
other work is but preparation. It is a high inducement
to the individual to ripen…a great exacting chain
upon us, something that chooses us out and calls us to
vast things."
-Rainer
Maria Rilke
Most of my clients hire me to assist them in making changes
in their professional lives. Since coaching addresses the
whole person, we typically focus on other life areas in
addition to career during the course of the coaching relationship.
One of those areas is referred to as ‘significant
other/romance’ on the Life Wheel. As clients make
changes in their lives, their love relationship may require
some attention in response to the changes. An important
outcome of coaching is greater self-awareness, so it makes
perfect sense for clients to desire a more conscious love
relationship as well.
The Conscious Relationship
In his best-selling book Getting the Love You Want, psychologist
Harville Hendrix offers a definition for a conscious relationship, "a
relationship that fosters maximum psychological and spiritual
growth; a relationship created by becoming conscious and
cooperating with the fundamental drives of the unconscious
mind: to be safe, to be healed, to be whole" (Harville
Hendrix, 1988).
How can you assist your clients to achieve a more
conscious relationship?
You may choose to work individually with clients on the
relationship area of their lives, and you may also work
with couples who desire relationship coaching. For the most
part, the methodology used in relationship coaching is similar
to individual coaching in terms of defining values and life
purpose, creating a vision, developing an action plan and
then implementing the plan.
In order for relationship coaching to be successful,
the coach must also be able to:
Design a coaching alliance
with both partners simultaneously.
Assist the couple in designing
a shared relationship vision in addition to
their personal visions.
Assist the couple to develop
and implement an action plan that honors the
relationship as well as each partner’s
values.
Model authenticity in communicating
effectively with both partners and assist
the couple in doing the same.
The Shared Relationship Vision
Whether you work individually with a client or with both
partners simultaneously, it is important that each couple
create a shared relationship vision. The process of designing
a shared vision enables couples to consciously explore and
articulate what they want from the relationship and from
each other.
Directions for designing a shared relationship vision:
Step 1: On a blank sheet of paper, describe the positive
qualities you enjoy about your relationship. Now write about
your ‘dream’ relationship, including the positive
qualities that exist already and the ones you desire. It
is helpful to refer to your personal vision and the Life
Wheel to complete this exercise. What aspects of your personal
vision include your partner? How will your top values be
honored through your vision? Write your vision in the present
tense as if it already exists. Language your sentences in
the positive (we maintain a healthy lifestyle by eating
healthy and exercising together, NOT we are not overweight
and inactive); keep them descriptive, clear and concise.
Step 2: Share your vision with your partner. On a
separate sheet of paper, write the heading "shared
relationship vision". Begin by listing the aspects
of both visions that overlap. Next, add the parts of each
vision that one partner included and the other partner agrees
with. If there are parts of each vision that one partner
included that the other partner does not agree with, set
them aside to be addressed at a later time.
Step 3: Each partner ranks on a scale of one through
ten the level of importance for each item on the shared
relationship vision. They then circle each of their top
three items.
Step 4: Begin to establish an action plan by setting
one or two goals for each of the top three items.
There will be items on the shared vision that couples will
agree are most important, and there will be items that one
partner will feel is more important than the other partner.
The places where partners differ typically represent growth
areas for each partner, requiring them to stretch out of
their comfort zone to accommodate the other person.
Here’s an example: In
creating a shared relationship vision, Karen
recognized that one aspect of her relationship
with her partner that was missing for her was
participating in fun activities together. This
included going for hikes and bike rides, playing
games together at home, and socializing with
friends. While Jim also wanted to engage in
these activities with Karen, he felt consumed
by his job and by all of the handiwork that
needed to be completed in the home they recently
purchased. Through coaching, Jim realized that
he had developed a pattern of ‘all work
and no play’. He wanted more balance between
work and leisure, and he began to make time
to do fun activities with Karen. They also had
fun working on house projects together.
Lisa G. Kramer, MSW, CPCC,
is a business and personal coach, trainer
and teleclass leader for ILCT. Lisa’s
business, Living With Intention (www.livingwithintention.com),
specializes in coaching, training and Coaching
Mastery™. She received her coach certification
from the Coaches Training Institute. She is
also a certified Imago Relationship coach,
having completed postgraduate training through
the Institute for Relationship Therapy, founded
by Dr. Harville Hendrix. You can reach her
at lisa@livingwithintention.com.
Marketing
Focus: Who Am I? What Am I? Who Do I
Serve?
If you've asked any of these
questions at some point in your life, then surely
you'll be able to identify with that fact that
one of the hardest things to do in a service
business is to connect with your ideal audience
quickly and creatively. Personal Branding can
help close that gap by branding you so clearly
that you're desired audience can recognize you're
who they need to work with in less than 30 seconds.
A clear identity constructed in a way that resonates
with your ideal clients concerns and problems
he/she struggles with will turn you in an instant
value proposition that people can't deny. The
desired response any coach wants to hear from
a prospective client is, "You're exactly
who and what I need to solve my problem. I must
work with you."
What stops most coaches isn't
marketing, but instead marketing to the wrong
audience with the wrong message and a lack of
clarity who they are being in that message.
Our job as professionally certified coaches
is to make it absolutely clear who we are to
someone, what we do for them, and the value
we bring to that person's life by using our
services. If we are unclear of our own uniqueness
and what sets our service apart from the next
life coach, then we will just be one more face
in a sea of coaches that are coming into the
profession. In our zeal to help others and prosper
the world, we will be doing ourselves and our
potential clients a disservice by not giving
them any hooks to hang their hat on to tell
us apart from one another.
To prove the point, next time
you have to get something resolved by a service
professional ask yourself a simple question:
why would I choose this person over another?
What is it about this person that stood out
for me that made me get to the point where I
had to hire them because no one else could do
the job as well? Chances are that person had
a clear personal brand and was able to communicate
it to you in a way that made you believe in
them and trust them as the person you had to
have. They were CLEAR.
Happy Branding!
The Brand Called Steven
Diebold: I slice through the mundane with
humor, great tact and care; I’m bold,
to the point, a ton of fun and deeply passionate
about accurate communications. I’ve
trained with: CTI, ILCT, completed 5 months
of a Masters program in Spiritual Psychology
at USM; obtained my B.S in Communications
and trained at UCLA in Film/TV as Director/Screenwriter.
I’m also classically trained as an actor,
singer, dancer.
COME JOIN US FOR THE Southeast
Regional Coaching Conference on APRIL 23-25,
2004 at the Embassy Suites in Cary, North Carolina.
We expect the conference to cover every aspect
of coaching and of running a successful business.
The conference theme is "The Architecture
of Great Coaching."
I’ve been in the coaching
business as a business since 1983, and for many
years prior to that as a college football coach.
I’ll reveal to you what has worked for
me.
My number one Belief: Take a Stand!
You have to have a platform, a stand that you take, that
you believe in, have a passion for and are committed to
sing about! This is different than a purpose and a vision.
This is a body of content, scientific behavioral knowledge,
wrapped around your personal life experiences.
Essentially, my view of coaching is quite expanded from
what the coaching schools are teaching. Yes, you take a
stand to hold your client to their agenda, their goals,
but what is your stand for them? What are your beliefs about
excellence, elite performance, habits, lifestyles, and life
fulfillment? I believe in having a clearly formed "agenda" that
you add as a teaching element to your coaching.
Most of my principles of success were developed as a football
coach. I also had the experience of coaching an Olympic
Gold Medal winner, Jeff Blatnick, who won the gold in the
1984 Olympics in Greco Roman Wrestling. I worked with Jeff
every day for two years. This enabled me to see first hand
the thoughts, attitudes and beliefs of an elite performer.
I believe you need to have a curriculum or a course that
you put your coaching clients through during your time with
them. If you don’t have one, partner with someone
who does.
I have my clients in a system of "behavioral contracting".
My live clients use my on-line coaching program to do the
behavioral contracting and our live calls are dedicated
to themes, context, clarity, behavioral education, challenges,
accountability and moving forward!
Behavioral contracting is making specific commitments and
then being held accountable for taking those actions over
the next seven days, with enforceable consequences for non-performance.
Belief #2: You are in the promoting business, not the
coaching business!
You might fight this, so notice any resistance and read
on. What you don’t want to be is a "secret".
You don’t want to be a talent that no one knows about.
As you promote you, you also promote the coaching profession.
Be an expert and tell people about it.
That’s right, become a speaker! Speaking is the fastest
way for you to become known as an expert and to educate
your audience. Speaking is where you deliver your passion
about who you are, what you do and the results the process
of coaching creates.
You can add another revenue stream by being a paid speaker
or your can speak for free at any organization that catches
your attention, local associations, clubs, businesses, etc.
The best way to promote the coaching profession is to be
an example of the results of coaching. Do you have a coach
yourself? If not, get one. It’s not an option.
Look at your life. Do you represent excellence? If you don’t,
work with your coach and find out where the gap is. Make
your action plan to bridge that gap and get in action. Are
you paying attention to your relationships, to your state
of mind, to your routine, alone time, etc? If not, then
take control and be on purpose.
Promoting the coaching profession means making you the best
you can be and promoting YOU!
Bob Davies, M.Ed., CPPC,
MCC, is owner of High Performance Training,
Inc. (www.bobdavies.com;
on-line coaching at www.bobdaviescoaching.com.)
He can be reached at: 949-830-9192 (phone),
949-830-9492 (fax) or info@bobdavies.com. The business
address is 20992 Ashley Lane, Lake Forest,
CA 92630-5865.
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Crafting
our Campaign Message: "Coaching is Catching
On"
In simple terms a "Brand" is an identifying mark.
In today's marketplace it has the added burden of being
a representative of quality.
Communication in this day and age is so fast and furious
that any organization or business that wants to be noticed
needs to brand themselves. One critical factor for being
noticed in this message-filled society is through frequency.
This is no more complicated than the method a parent uses
of repeating a message to a child until it is fully understood.
In 2003 the Public Relations Committee of ICF-North Texas,
chaired by Teresa Pool, brainstormed for approximately three
months to uncover and craft a quality message for their
public relations campaign during Coaching Week 2004. We
wanted a message that would be representative of all coaches,
build excitement, and most of all "be accepted."
There were so many things we wanted to say about Coaching
that we knew we would be challenged to survive the Internal
Communication Process:
1. Something/Anything is said
2. The Internal Voice immediately agrees or disagrees with
it
3. The Internal Voice questions it
4. The Internal Voice wants to give advice
5. The Internal Voice forms an opinion
As coaches, we know "most conflicts in life are value
conflicts". So, our goals were to craft a message that
would create no internal value conflicts with the listener,
be accepted, create excitement, be a message all coaches
could use, and use for a long time.
The desired outcome was for this new message to be used
by increasing numbers of coaches in their speech, and for
the chapter to use the message in its printed marketing
materials, on its website, and in the media campaign during
Coaching Week 2004. These were the first steps in our multi-year
local grassroots campaign to inform the North Texas area
of the joys and benefits of coaching.
As an individual coach it is beneficial to you and the profession
to bring this message forward, by simply saying, "Coaching
is catching on!" In addition, a good coach is always
prepared so it is best to have a few trusty facts to back
up the claim when the questions about coaching from potential
clients begin.
Here are a few quick facts that supported our PR campaign
message:
"ICF-NT has grown from
seven coaches to over eighty coaches in six
years."
"ICF is a world wide
organization with over 400 chapters and 5,000
members."
"Corporate America
has increased their purchase of coaching services
by over 10,000 percent in the last five years."
"ICF has signed its
first national coaching practices and pricing
agreement with the IBM Corporation. The top
3,000 managers of IBM have been introduced
to the power of coaching."
You can add a few personal
facts, which are always nice because they
are spoken with conviction and confidence.
All grassroots campaigns are born from the
imagination. A simple idea is discovered and
allowed to be expressed. And as the seed of
the idea germinates its roots begin to sprout.
And how strong and deep the roots will grow
is always dependent upon how often it is nourished.
Our nourishment is a pleasant tone of voice, a smile, and
a few simple words: "COACHING IS CATCHING ON!"...said
often, of course.
Michael Conklin is a full-time Success Coach located
in Dallas, Texas. His specialty is leadership training.
He has studied Success and Leadership for over 25 years
and managed a construction company for twenty. He is also
Public Relations & Marketing Chairman for the International
Coach Federation North Texas Chapter. You can reach Michael
at 972-725-9370.
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