Tomorrow's Life Coach
Volume 3 Issue 2: February 2004

In This Issue: Promoting the Coaching Profession

Upcoming Classes at ILCT
Pat's Ponderings - Pat Williams
Editor's Pen - Annette Miller
North Texas Coaches Promote Coaching
New Course: Relationship Coaching with Couples
The Conscious Relationship: Coaching with Couples - Lisa Kramer
Marketing Focus: Who Am I? What Am I? Who Do I Serve? - Steven Diebold
Announcement: Southeast Regional Coaching Conference
Promote Yourself--Promote Coaching! - Bob Davies
ILCT Offers Dr. Phil for Coaches
Crafting our Campaign Message: Coaching is Catching On - Michael Conklin

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Upcoming Classes at ILCT

Foundational Courses

  • Foundational Coach Training for Therapists - starts February 17 and March 16
  • Foundational Coach Training for Christian Counselors  - starts March 22

Advanced Courses

  • Keeping Your Soul Alive for Coaches: Personal, Professional and Spiritual Renewal
  • Employee Assistant Coaching Specialist
  • Advanced Course in Using the DISC and PIAV in Coaching
  • Advanced Career Coaching: The Life Purpose Process Part I
  • Relationship Coaching with Couples *
  • Group Coaching

* See related article in this issue

For additional classes, details and online registration, visit our course section. Some schedules may change; check listing or contact Edwina Adams, Administration/Registration, at edwina@lifecoachtraining.com or Diane Menendez, Director of Faculty and Curriculum, at diane@lifecoachtraining.com.  


Pat's Ponderings

Dear Readers,

This month's issue, about promoting the Coaching profession, may seem a bit paradoxical. We often teach not to promote but to use the principle of attraction. But you still have to promote. We just don't believe that coaches nor the profession itself should use manipulative, coercive or pressure tactics for "selling" the possibility of hiring a coach. So, this issue is about how do we get the word out, how do people hear about Coaching as a profession and about coaches specifically.

In a sentence: Quit being a secret and share about what you do and the profession itself with passion and authentic excitement.

I just returned from a week in the UK and spoke with many coaches, business leaders, and coaching professionals about Coaching in the UK specifically. People in the UK, and Europe in general, put faith in proper credentials and training standards. IF you are connected and learning from an Accredited Coach Training Program (ACTP) such as ILCT, then you are on the right path. And it also is a big credibility boost if you also join the ICF and abide by the standards of excellence, the code of ethics, and become an active part in shaping the profession.

When you speak about the profession of coaching in a positive, professional and ethical manner, then the next logical step of letting people know they can hire you is easier.

Who do you need to let know that you are coaching, and how can you contact them this week?

Pat
Patrick Williams Ed.D., MCC
Chief Energizing Officer, ILCT
Department Chair, Professional Coaching 
International University of Professional Studies
www.iups.edu


Editor's Pen

Dear Coaches,

Do you still meet people who have never heard of coaching? I do--often. How are you meeting the challenge of explaining your craft?

Recently, I've been hearing "Don't use the word 'coach', but describe what you do." It takes time, courage and hard work to prepare a powerful description of your business, but it is definitely worth it. A marketing coach can help.

Do you contrast the coaching profession with therapy and consulting when talking with prospects? Last week I came across a great example of this at http://www.marketingu.net/coaching/index.html (near the bottom of the page) that you will want to read. Often stories communicate more clearly than lists of facts or definitions.

Take advantage of the articles from this issue on "Promoting the Coaching Profession" to help you plan your next promotion!

Celebrating the Coaching Profession,
Annette

Annette A. Miller, Professional Life Coach
annette@lifesync.com

Editor, Tomorrow's Life Coach
Graduate, ILCT
Member, ICF, CCN, IAC
Founder, LifeSync Coaching®
Assessments & Customizing Systems to increase the ease and success of running a coaching business: www.lifesync.com.




North Texas Coaches Promote Coaching

There is an incredible amount of energy and talent in North Texas coaches. Through the Herculean efforts of the Coaching Week 2004 Team, led by Sharon Coleman and guided by Teresa Pool (current ICF-NT Chapter Host and last year's ICF-NT Public Relations Chair), many impressive events were made available to the public promoting the coaching profession this month.

This was a collaborative effort initiated by ICF-North Texas (Judy Womack, 2003 Chapter Host) who was joined by CoachVille DFW (Frank Spitzig, President) and Christian Coaches Network-North Texas Chapter (Annette Miller, Facilitator). The Coaching Week Team began meeting last fall and selected various activities. Many coaches contributed their resources to brainstorming, facilitating and implementing activities. Coaching Week events were compiled and listed in one central location at www.icf-nt.org. Members were invited to submit a form to highlight their February services (workshops, coaching programs and teleclasses) which were then listed on the ICF-NT website. A flier was created that highlighted events and directed readers to the website; this flier was distributed by local coaches to the public. 

A Kick-Off Event on Monday of Coaching Week included 13 hours of free teleforums to provide coaching information and inspiration to the public. Each hour had a different host and focus; most were led by individual coaches. The coaching week coordinators provided a script to each teleforum host which invited listeners to Coaching Week and to visit the website.

One of the local coaches who hosts a television program on a local cable channel brought three other local coaches together for a show titled "Expanding Your Life with Coaching for 2004". Radio was another venue used this year-three coaches participated in two radio shows to promote the coaching profession.

Another exciting event was a pro-bono coaching program called "Giving Back - Coaching our Community Leaders." Five non-profit organizations and five school district groups were selected to receive three months of pro bono coaching. Local coaches organizing this event searched for interested organizations, created an application process, identified qualified coaches to provide the services, and matched coaches with these groups/individuals. Those selected will be committed to achieving bigger goals and advanced personal and professional development.

The energy and facilitation provided by the bringing together of these coaches will continue. Later this year, a Human Resources/Organizational Development event is anticipated, as well as a CEO event.

See separate article on this ICF Chapter: "Crafting our Campaign Message."


New Course: Relationship Coaching with Couples

Do you coach couples or are you looking to expand your coaching practice to include couples?  Join Lisa Kramer for a fun, highly interactive eight-week course from March 10 - April 24 that will provide you with the tools needed to work with couples who want to create more fulfilling relationships in their lives. Click to learn more.

The Conscious Relationship: Coaching with Couples

"For one human being to love another; that is perhaps the most difficult task of all...the work for which all other work is but preparation. It is a high inducement to the individual to ripen…a great exacting chain upon us, something that chooses us out and calls us to vast things."
                                                               -Rainer Maria Rilke

Most of my clients hire me to assist them in making changes in their professional lives. Since coaching addresses the whole person, we typically focus on other life areas in addition to career during the course of the coaching relationship. One of those areas is referred to as ‘significant other/romance’ on the Life Wheel. As clients make changes in their lives, their love relationship may require some attention in response to the changes. An important outcome of coaching is greater self-awareness, so it makes perfect sense for clients to desire a more conscious love relationship as well. 

The Conscious Relationship

In his best-selling book Getting the Love You Want, psychologist Harville Hendrix offers a definition for a conscious relationship, "a relationship that fosters maximum psychological and spiritual growth; a relationship created by becoming conscious and cooperating with the fundamental drives of the unconscious mind: to be safe, to be healed, to be whole" (Harville Hendrix, 1988). 

How can you assist your clients to achieve a more conscious relationship? 

You may choose to work individually with clients on the relationship area of their lives, and you may also work with couples who desire relationship coaching. For the most part, the methodology used in relationship coaching is similar to individual coaching in terms of defining values and life purpose, creating a vision, developing an action plan and then implementing the plan. 

In order for relationship coaching to be successful, the coach must also be able to:

  • Design a coaching alliance with both partners simultaneously.
  • Assist the couple in designing a shared relationship vision in addition to their personal visions.
  • Assist the couple to develop and implement an action plan that honors the relationship as well as each partner’s values.
  • Model authenticity in communicating effectively with both partners and assist the couple in doing the same.

The Shared Relationship Vision

Whether you work individually with a client or with both partners simultaneously, it is important that each couple create a shared relationship vision. The process of designing a shared vision enables couples to consciously explore and articulate what they want from the relationship and from each other. 

Directions for designing a shared relationship vision:

Step 1: On a blank sheet of paper, describe the positive qualities you enjoy about your relationship. Now write about your ‘dream’ relationship, including the positive qualities that exist already and the ones you desire. It is helpful to refer to your personal vision and the Life Wheel to complete this exercise. What aspects of your personal vision include your partner? How will your top values be honored through your vision? Write your vision in the present tense as if it already exists. Language your sentences in the positive (we maintain a healthy lifestyle by eating healthy and exercising together, NOT we are not overweight and inactive); keep them descriptive, clear and concise. 

Step 2: Share your vision with your partner. On a separate sheet of paper, write the heading "shared relationship vision". Begin by listing the aspects of both visions that overlap. Next, add the parts of each vision that one partner included and the other partner agrees with. If there are parts of each vision that one partner included that the other partner does not agree with, set them aside to be addressed at a later time.

Step 3: Each partner ranks on a scale of one through ten the level of importance for each item on the shared relationship vision. They then circle each of their top three items. 

Step 4: Begin to establish an action plan by setting one or two goals for each of the top three items.

There will be items on the shared vision that couples will agree are most important, and there will be items that one partner will feel is more important than the other partner. The places where partners differ typically represent growth areas for each partner, requiring them to stretch out of their comfort zone to accommodate the other person. 

Here’s an example: In creating a shared relationship vision, Karen recognized that one aspect of her relationship with her partner that was missing for her was participating in fun activities together. This included going for hikes and bike rides, playing games together at home, and socializing with friends. While Jim also wanted to engage in these activities with Karen, he felt consumed by his job and by all of the handiwork that needed to be completed in the home they recently purchased. Through coaching, Jim realized that he had developed a pattern of ‘all work and no play’. He wanted more balance between work and leisure, and he began to make time to do fun activities with Karen. They also had fun working on house projects together. 

Lisa G. Kramer, MSW, CPCC, is a business and personal coach, trainer and teleclass leader for ILCT. Lisa’s business, Living With Intention (www.livingwithintention.com), specializes in coaching, training and Coaching Mastery™. She received her coach certification from the Coaches Training Institute. She is also a certified Imago Relationship coach, having completed postgraduate training through the Institute for Relationship Therapy, founded by Dr. Harville Hendrix. You can reach her at lisa@livingwithintention.com.


Marketing Focus: Who Am I? What Am I? Who Do I Serve?

If you've asked any of these questions at some point in your life, then surely you'll be able to identify with that fact that one of the hardest things to do in a service business is to connect with your ideal audience quickly and creatively. Personal Branding can help close that gap by branding you so clearly that you're desired audience can recognize you're who they need to work with in less than 30 seconds. A clear identity constructed in a way that resonates with your ideal clients concerns and problems he/she struggles with will turn you in an instant value proposition that people can't deny. The desired response any coach wants to hear from a prospective client is, "You're exactly who and what I need to solve my problem. I must work with you."

What stops most coaches isn't marketing, but instead marketing to the wrong audience with the wrong message and a lack of clarity who they are being in that message. Our job as professionally certified coaches is to make it absolutely clear who we are to someone, what we do for them, and the value we bring to that person's life by using our services. If we are unclear of our own uniqueness and what sets our service apart from the next life coach, then we will just be one more face in a sea of coaches that are coming into the profession. In our zeal to help others and prosper the world, we will be doing ourselves and our potential clients a disservice by not giving them any hooks to hang their hat on to tell us apart from one another.

To prove the point, next time you have to get something resolved by a service professional ask yourself a simple question: why would I choose this person over another? What is it about this person that stood out for me that made me get to the point where I had to hire them because no one else could do the job as well? Chances are that person had a clear personal brand and was able to communicate it to you in a way that made you believe in them and trust them as the person you had to have. They were CLEAR.

Happy Branding!

The Brand Called Steven Diebold: I slice through the mundane with humor, great tact and care; I’m bold, to the point, a ton of fun and deeply passionate about accurate communications. I’ve trained with: CTI, ILCT, completed 5 months of a Masters program in Spiritual Psychology at USM; obtained my B.S in Communications and trained at UCLA in Film/TV as Director/Screenwriter. I’m also classically trained as an actor, singer, dancer.


Announcement: Southeast Regional Coaching Conference

COME JOIN US FOR THE Southeast Regional Coaching Conference on APRIL 23-25, 2004 at the Embassy Suites in Cary, North Carolina. We expect the conference to cover every aspect of coaching and of running a successful business. The conference theme is "The Architecture of Great Coaching."

For online registration and details click here


Promote Yourself--Promote Coaching!

I’ve been in the coaching business as a business since 1983, and for many years prior to that as a college football coach. I’ll reveal to you what has worked for me.

My number one Belief: Take a Stand! 

You have to have a platform, a stand that you take, that you believe in, have a passion for and are committed to sing about! This is different than a purpose and a vision. This is a body of content, scientific behavioral knowledge, wrapped around your personal life experiences.

Essentially, my view of coaching is quite expanded from what the coaching schools are teaching. Yes, you take a stand to hold your client to their agenda, their goals, but what is your stand for them? What are your beliefs about excellence, elite performance, habits, lifestyles, and life fulfillment? I believe in having a clearly formed "agenda" that you add as a teaching element to your coaching. 

Most of my principles of success were developed as a football coach. I also had the experience of coaching an Olympic Gold Medal winner, Jeff Blatnick, who won the gold in the 1984 Olympics in Greco Roman Wrestling. I worked with Jeff every day for two years. This enabled me to see first hand the thoughts, attitudes and beliefs of an elite performer.

I believe you need to have a curriculum or a course that you put your coaching clients through during your time with them. If you don’t have one, partner with someone who does. 

I have my clients in a system of "behavioral contracting". My live clients use my on-line coaching program to do the behavioral contracting and our live calls are dedicated to themes, context, clarity, behavioral education, challenges, accountability and moving forward! 

Behavioral contracting is making specific commitments and then being held accountable for taking those actions over the next seven days, with enforceable consequences for non-performance.

Belief #2: You are in the promoting business, not the coaching business!

You might fight this, so notice any resistance and read on. What you don’t want to be is a "secret". You don’t want to be a talent that no one knows about. As you promote you, you also promote the coaching profession. Be an expert and tell people about it.

That’s right, become a speaker! Speaking is the fastest way for you to become known as an expert and to educate your audience. Speaking is where you deliver your passion about who you are, what you do and the results the process of coaching creates. 

You can add another revenue stream by being a paid speaker or your can speak for free at any organization that catches your attention, local associations, clubs, businesses, etc.

The best way to promote the coaching profession is to be an example of the results of coaching. Do you have a coach yourself? If not, get one. It’s not an option. 

Look at your life. Do you represent excellence? If you don’t, work with your coach and find out where the gap is. Make your action plan to bridge that gap and get in action. Are you paying attention to your relationships, to your state of mind, to your routine, alone time, etc? If not, then take control and be on purpose. 

Promoting the coaching profession means making you the best you can be and promoting YOU!

Bob Davies, M.Ed., CPPC, MCC, is owner of High Performance Training, Inc. (www.bobdavies.com; on-line coaching at www.bobdaviescoaching.com.) He can be reached at: 949-830-9192 (phone), 949-830-9492 (fax) or info@bobdavies.com. The business address is 20992 Ashley Lane, Lake Forest, CA 92630-5865.



ILCT Offers Dr. Phil for Coaches

The Institute for Life Coach Training is now the exclusive source for an online certificate training program of coursework on the theory, approaches and techniques that are used by Dr. Phil McGraw to facilitate life change.  In partnership with LearnDrPhil from Lawlis we are making these courses available to professional coaches who want to learn how to put Dr. Phil's coaching approaches to work in their practice. This curriculum of training is based on the work of Dr. Philip C. McGraw as taught by his long-time mentor and content advisor for the Dr. Phil Show - G. Frank Lawlis, PhD.

Ethics & Dr. Phil's Approach - $125 (ILCT price $95)
Learn the ethical parameters of the client - coach relationship.

Self Matters - $395 (ILCT price $365)
Learn how to nurture your client's authenticity of self through Dr. Phil's exercises.

Life Strategies- $395 (ILCT price $365)
Teach your clients how to craft the life they want to live with Dr. Phil's 10 "Life Laws."

Relationship Rescue- $395 (ILCT price $365)
Dr. Phil's strategies for resolving conflict and promoting intimacy in troubled relationships.

Ultimate Weight Solution - $395 (ILCT price $365)
Teach your clients Dr. Phil's proven strategies for weight loss.

Online Professional Development Modules 

Learn the theories behind Dr. Phil's techniques 
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Benefit from highly interactive, Web-based learning modules 
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When you register use the following Discount Code: ILCT

Click here to learn more or to register!   


Crafting our Campaign Message: "Coaching is Catching On"

In simple terms a "Brand" is an identifying mark. In today's marketplace it has the added burden of being a representative of quality.

Communication in this day and age is so fast and furious that any organization or business that wants to be noticed needs to brand themselves. One critical factor for being noticed in this message-filled society is through frequency. This is no more complicated than the method a parent uses of repeating a message to a child until it is fully understood.

In 2003 the Public Relations Committee of ICF-North Texas, chaired by Teresa Pool, brainstormed for approximately three months to uncover and craft a quality message for their public relations campaign during Coaching Week 2004. We wanted a message that would be representative of all coaches, build excitement, and most of all "be accepted."

There were so many things we wanted to say about Coaching that we knew we would be challenged to survive the Internal Communication Process:

1. Something/Anything is said

2. The Internal Voice immediately agrees or disagrees with it

3. The Internal Voice questions it

4. The Internal Voice wants to give advice

5. The Internal Voice forms an opinion

As coaches, we know "most conflicts in life are value conflicts". So, our goals were to craft a message that would create no internal value conflicts with the listener, be accepted, create excitement, be a message all coaches could use, and use for a long time.

The desired outcome was for this new message to be used by increasing numbers of coaches in their speech, and for the chapter to use the message in its printed marketing materials, on its website, and in the media campaign during Coaching Week 2004. These were the first steps in our multi-year local grassroots campaign to inform the North Texas area of the joys and benefits of coaching. 

As an individual coach it is beneficial to you and the profession to bring this message forward, by simply saying, "Coaching is catching on!" In addition, a good coach is always prepared so it is best to have a few trusty facts to back up the claim when the questions about coaching from potential clients begin.

Here are a few quick facts that supported our PR campaign message:

  1. "ICF-NT has grown from seven coaches to over eighty coaches in six years."

  2. "ICF is a world wide organization with over 400 chapters and 5,000 members."

  3. "Corporate America has increased their purchase of coaching services by over 10,000 percent in the last five years."

  4. "ICF has signed its first national coaching practices and pricing agreement with the IBM Corporation. The top 3,000 managers of IBM have been introduced to the power of coaching."

  5. You can add a few personal facts, which are always nice because they are spoken with conviction and confidence.

All grassroots campaigns are born from the imagination. A simple idea is discovered and allowed to be expressed. And as the seed of the idea germinates its roots begin to sprout. And how strong and deep the roots will grow is always dependent upon how often it is nourished.

Our nourishment is a pleasant tone of voice, a smile, and a few simple words: "COACHING IS CATCHING ON!"...said often, of course.

Michael Conklin is a full-time Success Coach located in Dallas, Texas. His specialty is leadership training. He has studied Success and Leadership for over 25 years and managed a construction company for twenty. He is also Public Relations & Marketing Chairman for the International Coach Federation North Texas Chapter. You can reach Michael at 972-725-9370.


 

Tomorrow's Life Coach
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Annette Miller, Editor, annette@lifesync.com
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